We are all different from each other and yet some of us are so alike. There are many different factors that links two people together: physical attraction, proximity, familiarity, culture and common past experiences. I also believe in Karma, unfinished business and why some people in our path are not coincidental. That will be in my next article, stay tuned.
What also defines us is how we communicate with love, is it known that we have 5 love languages and each one of us speak that language, but which one? On 5 of these languages, one dominates and you might also speak and process up to three. It is important to assess which language you and your partner speak so you can get a better understanding of what you need to do to be happy. and make your partner feel loved by speaking their language. Also, how to include positive reinforcement and realize that no one is a mind a reader.
Quality time-Gifts-Words of Affirmation- Physical Touch- Acts of Service.
It is life changing to understand what your partner needs and how you can let them know you love them. I once in a while ask vocally for reassurance because that is how I survive to understand that my partner cares although spending time together and physical touch are my two censors of feeling emotionally satisfied.
Another helpful tip to establish a growing relationship is to point out and explain what you like and dislike. With that said, our generation has a tendency to repeatedly give negative reinforcement "I don't like it when you don't answer your phone." What's wrong with that? A- it's an attack B- There is no explanation. Whenever you want to say something that's been making you feel a certain way, always use "I feel". Now you should say " I feel rejected and ignored when you don't answer your phone." You should get a explanation and a calm response...if not, move on.
So what about positive reinforcement? your partner needs to feel appreciated and if you've asked for something to change and they have made efforts, tell them! make them feel loved. Too often we focus on the bad...let the good win!
Now....Go see what's YOUR love language!