Cheating is having the opportunity to do something bad that you wouldn't go to jail for. Isn't that just a treat? Well, it could cost you a lot of money if it results in a nasty divorce but it's the one thing that an individual has easy access for glorious sabotaging. In a instant, we forget what's important and we are blinded by physical ideals represented by another human being that are actually lies, perhaps a fantasy, a guilty pleasure or a sex addiction. The prize? Well, we usually lose everything we actually cared about-- at some point--because, no matter why or how you've cheated, the truth usually comes out.
He's been waking up next to her in the morning for awhile now, he knows what she looks like when she wakes up or when she gets ready to look pretty. The surprise is that there are no surprises. He knows the sound of her laugh and the warmth and every inches of her skin. He also remembers how she sets her hands on his body and loves the feel of it like it's her home...and he often thinks of the day they had passionate sex in the kitchen and also the moments where he just wants to hold her because it's peaceful. He remembers the way she looked at him the first time and every time her heart was screaming "I love you more than anything else in this world" and feels like he could tell her anything and she would always be there for him, he also remembers that day she rubbed his back because he got a little too drunk and still loved him as much as she does when he's handsome and healthy...or when her head is laying on his chest when they're watching movies and she feels safe with him and wouldn't trade anywhere in the world than being buried in his perfect arms.
One day, this girl comes along, pretty and confident or at least you think she is...She is going to sit next to you and you are going to smell her perfume that you've never smelled before. Her face is like an unknown map, even though you wouldn't really want to get to know her...you are sexually attracted by the unpredictable unknown. She looks at you, smiles and shares a few words with you when all of sudden, very calculated, she puts her hand on yours and that touch electrifies you because you haven't felt the inches of another throbbing skin on your skin. She's going to pretend to understand your humor and play a game that you haven't played in a long time. Oh, the game...
You are going to let your fatal attraction get the best of you and prove yourself how you still perform by hearing the pitch of moaning and screams of this stranger you've never heard before...
Once it's all done with and you think you're satisfied, you are going to look back at her and realize that she doesn't fit into your arms like your girlfriend does and you wouldn't want to hold her because you wouldn't be comfortable being vulnerable to this girl. She looks at you like a transaction, just another man that fed her desires and is secretly happy that she manipulated you to bed and didn't have a care in the world if you had a girlfriend because she was also cheated on once upon a time. All of this...for this.
The perfect relationship you destroyed in a few minutes or hours is something that you have been looking for, that you wanted and created.
Everyone wants to have that one person that knows everything about who you are and accepts you for all of it. Laughs at all your jokes and knows your pains, your fears, your joys and your kindness. The depth of love you can receive from a significant other can be so rare that it is worth thinking twice on your actions; are they really worth it? The fact that you know everything about your girlfriend and that sometimes you go through phases where you both need to revive the relationship is what relationships are all about. Laying next to someone you love, trust and day by day building a life has much more value than a glimpse of what you think is unknown but in reality you know exactly how you are going to feel afterwards-- disgusted. That stranger is at the end of the day, not your girlfriend, who loves you deeply, who you thought you wanted to run away from for a moment and realize all that you want is her. She will probably find out and will never look at you, love you and touch you the same way...everything will be different when you wish it could go back to being the same: The surprise of no surprises.
just to be clear, these roles can easily be reversed. There are women out there that are capable of cheating as well and changing a man forever. A perfectly good one, and that is unforgivable.
I have been cheated on many times and the pain is unnecessary, destructive and turns you into another human being...the person who deliberately hurts you, takes away your innocence.
I hear guys say that ALL the girls cheat...The generation is switching where women are having a bit more pleasure sabotaging because of a vicious cycle where they were once a victim as well.
A woman that loves you in the purest way will not cheat on you. That's the truth and it is that simple.
There is still pure, genuine, trustworthy love delivered by good souls...It's a matter of a bond, trust and comfort with someone that just feels right. Don't destroy that. Men and women cheat for different reasons... Men is manly physical attraction, women is malicious and testing their relationships on very different levels.
Bottom line, if you love and you are in a healthy long term relationship that is sometimes "boring"...well, good for you! what you call "boring" is actually forgetting that you are in a relationship because you are so comfortable...some lonely people would pay to be bored and have someone they can call their "home."